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- Sandi
- I started this blog 200 lbs overweight. I now have under 100 lbs left to lose. My goal was to save my life by losing weight and become the active, fun loving woman I was inside. I am most of those things now, but have a ways to go! Join me as I blog my way through this journey.
Stats
Age: 44
Highest: 368 (7/12/10)
Current: 259.2 (7/9/12)
Goal: 168
Total Pounds lost: 108.8
Highest: 368 (7/12/10)
Current: 259.2 (7/9/12)
Goal: 168
Total Pounds lost: 108.8
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5 comments:
I know right where you are. I've been there many times before. I've failed and failed again and felt that I couldn't try anymore because the weight of another failure would crush me.
I can't tell anyone else what to do, but I have found success with a variety of techniques meant to bring about slow changes and control over my eating. It starts very tiny, with goals that I can't fail at until those goals become the norm and then I push back a little further until that becomes the norm. Eventually, I am able to eat less, exercise more and have some pretty good control. You can look at my blog if you want to see what I did.
http://screamingfatgirl.blogspot.com/
That being said, I can't say what worked for me would work for you or anyone else, but if you are unhappy, I would encourage you to keep trying and to look at this as a long process. Make your goals very small indeed such that they are easy to succeed with, and be patient with yourself.
I started out at a higher weight than you, and I have been overweight my entire life. I know your despair, and I offer you all the compassion that I can from one stranger to another.
Old Chinese proverb: "Fall nine times, get up ten." You've gotten up now, and I'll help support you. Hugs!
Jane
You wrote this(below)in an earlier post.
Just wanted to remind you, because when I read it I nodded and thought "Yes, I imagine so many overweight people will be able to relate to that. Sadly, (or perhaps not?) there are one or two dieting paragons of virtue out there that I once tried to emulate and I am not sure whether I enjoy reading about their wonderfully disciplined lifestyles or not. I waver between thinking I ought to try harder, work harder and be more like them them, or telling myself that we all have to find our own way in this challenge. It's pretty obvious that MY own way is slow, very slow, and I have promised myself I WILL NOT let my objective of losing weight mess with my head. That's when I lose the plot. Take it one day at a time, one meal of snack at a time, and don't beat yourself up if the scales don't budge fast enough. Lots of little disciplined moments will one day add up to a new lifestyle. I don't think it works to change EVERYTHING all at once. Every day is a new day and a chance to start afresh and to introduce new habits. I still fall backwards, but I know I have to keep going. That's probably as disciplined as I get! Many of us have been where you are now, so read below again and tell yourself you CAN get the job done and you will, no matter how long it takes. Best wishes.
"The striving to "perfect" always did me in. I am not perfect and never will be, and I no longer expecting that of myself. I am learning that however I am wired, I will never be perfect, I don't think I have it in me. But that doesn't mean I can't get the job done, it just might be later rather than sooner. And finally I am OK with that. I still think I need to rev things up a notch, but all in good time."
Just keep trying and never give up Sandi!
I forgot to write earlier that I understand how you feel about the dieting paragons of virtue! There's a maintainer over at 3fc's that says the same thing in every single post. I know she's done well, but she comes off as very arrogant and condescending. The same way of life just isn't going to work for every single person.
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