more than just talking about it

Wow, you guys are awesome. I really appreciate all your support. Your comments really got me to thinking as well as some conversations I had elsewhere with some other fine people.

So the main problem is that I get on plan and do really well for 5 days, 2 weeks, even 5 weeks and then at some point, I eat off plan, which makes the next day off plan and then I am completely off plan and I gain it all back. The be really strict and get it all off now approach is always the route I go and it never works for me.

So the plan right now is to simply count my calories EVERY day. Be accountable no matter what I put in my mouth. This yo-yoing MUST stop and the gaining MUST stop. They say that you should eat approx 12 cals for every lb of body weight. So if I want to weigh 165, my calories need to be 1980 and to not gain, my calories need to be 4380. I think 4380 is ridiculous, and I refuse to discuss the obvious (if I am gaining, how many cals am I eating?) I am not really setting any limits, but I know my guidelines. I don't want to be on plan or off plan, because that is what does me in. I don't care how slow the weight comes off, I just need it to go in a downward motion. So the plan is to simply count everything, no matter what and hope that knowing my limits will automatically help me keep my calories low enough to lose some weight each week.