9/20/06
Calories: 1800
Exercise: 45 min water aerobics & 30 min water step intervals
*sigh* Things with Jacob and school were going along so nicely and then on Tuesday he was afraid his best friend wouldn't be in school again (out sick the day before) so he cried when I dropped him off. He gets dropped of at after school care at 7:00 am and scholl starts at 8:40 am, so he's there for a while. His best friend doesn't always come in the morning, so I'm not sure why he's so upset. Anyway Tuesday was horrible. Wednesday Steve was off, so he just took him directly to school and picked him up right after, so he didn't get any grief. Then today it was back to after school care and he started in before we even got into school. Crying, telling me he wanted me to call off work. As I walked down the long hallway to leave he just stood at the door crying and screaming "mommy". I cried for 10 min on the way to work. It's killing me! I don't know what to do. I will write a note today to his teacher and find out if there are any problems in kindergarten and then I will write a note to Mrs. Tanner, who is in charge of the after-school care and see if there are any problems there. Steve asked for me (he does the pick-up) and they said he settled down after a few minutes on Tuesday. But Jacob just doesn't do this. Not since he was like 3 years old. I can't handle this much emotion every single morning. It's 8:40 and I am still sad.
I sure can tell that I'm an emotional eater. That's all I want to do right now.
I had a great day yesterday. Really got things turned around - ended up with only 1800 calories and lots of exercise!! Yahhh - It's about time I had an OP day! Having to be accountable at work is really going to help.
Edited to add:
Today is turning out to be a very stressful and emotional day. Today I will fight to stay OP. I will not feed my emotions. This too will pass.
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Awwww, poor guy! Here’s the thing though Sandi, as long as he’s getting a reaction from you that makes him think you’re gonna do something about it (ie, not make him go) he’s gonna continue to act out this way. It doesn’t really matter that you’re never going to give in, if he thinks there’s the slightest possibility, he’s still gonna go for it. I know it’s hard not to have an emotional reaction to your obviously upset child, but in this case, since nothing bad will happen by making him stay, you’ve got to detach and come at him from a whole new perspective. My response would be, oh wow buddy, you sound pretty upset. It’s no fun having to stay here without your best friend to keep you company, huh? I totally understand how you’re feeling. Next time he comes you’ll have to tell him how much you missed him today, he’s lucky to have such a good friend as you! I can’t wait to hear about the other cool stuff you found to do since (friend) wasn’t here today, be sure to tell me when I see you later, k? Love you, bye!! Sure, he may be left scratching his head, wondering what the hell just happened here, but he won’t be crying and you won’t have to leave feeling like a bad mother ready to dive head first into a hot fudge sundae. To tell the truth, I’d be real surprised if his teacher says there’s anything going on, I think he’s really just playing you cuz he knows he can. In essence, he knows how much his mommy loves him and wants him to be happy, what could be bad about that?? Hang in there hon, this too shall pass.
Nothing really to add to Bev's words of wisdom (isn't she great?)
Yes, once you've made sure with the teacher that nothing "strange" is going on, you can relax and not let it affect other things in your life (yeah, I know, easier said than done). Now, if he stands at the door crying at high school, THEN you're allowed to get upset!
Good work yesterday on calories, control and exercise. I know you've having a tough time of it today, but you've got your group of ladies there for support (I'm sure they'll give you some encouragement, unless they really, really want that $5).
Stay strong, you can do it, kiddo!
Sandi, I have been through exactly the same thing with my 5 year old son at daycare and at kindergarten. And yes I have spend my 10 minutes crying in the car and feeling like the worst mom in the world. The truth is that you feel worse than he does because he settles in 2 minutes, honestly he does and the teacher will tell you the same thing. All you can do is put on a positive happy face, say bye-bye, hug and kiss, hand him off to a teacher and leave. Prolonging the good-bye trying to settle him does no good, it is better to make it short and sweet. These teachers have seen it all before, they know how to handle it so don't feel bad that you are leaving them with a crying child, they'll have him colouring or looking at a book in about 30 seconds and he''ll have forgotten all about it before you are even in your car!
Stay OP Sandi, you can do it!
Jen
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